Power exchange, in particular, brings me a lot of joy. I especially love being of service. This kink allows me to reclaim and reshape my experiences with domesticity and traditional gender roles, which I was obligated to perform during my marriage. In the past, I was expected to serve, not just my husband but my entire family, with little appreciation beyond, “Good job doing what you’re supposed to do.” Reflecting on those times, especially within extended family settings, I see how women were valued based on how well they conformed to traditional roles. That was all I knew because it was what I observed and learned from the culture around me. Now, when I engage in acts of service within kink, I do so with genuine joy — not because it’s expected, but because I’m good at it, and it comes with praise, acknowledgment, and a shared goal of bringing pleasure. It’s about knowing my partner appreciates and recognizes my efforts and is invested in my pleasure, which is where I find true satisfaction.
